She is you, you are her

We all know that green, that burning green colour, the feeling of jealousy in the heart, accompanied by crumbs of admiration. For the “IT GIRL”, the dream girl or popular among many. With shiny long hair, the perfect skin and a social life more happening than you wish. She speaks with confidence, she breathes magic, and she has just the perfect mix of mysterious and goofy. Most importantly, she is bold, confident, and brimming with self-love, the glow you aspire to have.

 You wonder if you want to compete with her or become her. I also spent high school and university years envying such popular girls. This ordeal becomes more tormenting with self-criticism and the self-hatred born from comparison.

But here’s the secret: you don’t actually hate her. You admire her qualities because you sense that you can cultivate them, too. Someone else’s glow simply reminds you of your own potential.

 

In reality, it’s your inner child simply screaming at you to tap and unfold those qualities that you admire in her. The glow, the self-love, and confidence already exist within you. You simply need to re-channel your focus back to yourself. You are leaking your precious energy to all the unnecessary people and places that don’t deserve an ounce of it.

 

External glow up may help to a good extent: a new haircut, a brand new dress, finding make-up or skincare suiting your skin. However, at the end of the day, when you come back to yourself, you become your authentic self. Internal glow is what is needed to do the inner work. To heal the wounds and past experiences that shaped your negative perspective of yourself. Thus, inner work is non-negotiable.

 

Here’s something which you will recognise only when you do the inner work and embark on a self-love journey. You have your own magic, too. None can do the best job at being you. Your unique qualities make you just as special. Self-love is not just for her—it’s for everyone, including you.